Stop searching, start living
Yesterday, I heard about a couple who separated because one of them wanted to "find themselves." It's an expression you hear often: to find oneself.
Are we really meant to find ourselves, as if something is lost? Where should we look, and what do we hope to find? Will we ever succeed?
There's a high risk that we'll return empty-handed if we embark on such a quest with the mindset that something essential is missing within us, that we're lost and must find our way home. If, instead, we realize that we've already arrived, that the truly important things are with us here and now, we increase our chances of gaining something unexpected.
We become rich the moment we stop feeling poor. We gain everything when we understand that we don't need anything. Home is found when we stop searching.
Personally, I've found that the moments I felt most lost were the times when I was searching the hardest. It was only when I paused and appreciated what I already had that I truly felt at ease—a feeling of being at home.
This mindset has also made me appreciate traveling, discovering new places, and meeting new people more than ever before.